An attractive young woman approaches you in a bar. Before you can figure out how it became your lucky night, you hear this: “Can you buy me a drink?”
Or you’re talking with an unusual beauty, or maybe dancing, and she offers you the old, “Are you currently going to get me a drink?”
So how do you handle this case? Buy her a drink or not? And what does one say in this regard?
If you’ve been around the block only a little, you’ve probably come to understand that it’s usually not a good idea to respond to these drink requests in a positive fashion. For most reasons…
1.) Club drinks are usually very costly and will drain your wallet fast.
2.) She may possibly not be attracted for your requirements at all and simply be using one to finance her night out.
3.) She may already be out with some guy, and once she gets her drink, she returns to him and completely ignores you (it happens).
4.) Most of all, buying her a drink runs the danger of framing your interaction together where you’re seeking her approval! You are the pursuer and she is the prize that must definitely be won.
Now, it is possible that she really IS into you, and this is just her way to get to know you better 個工. If that’s the case it’s doubtful that she even cares about the drink. Remember, I said possible, not probable. Or there may be some chemistry going on as you are able to feel and she says it.
Is it “more straightforward to be safe than sorry” or even to “throw caution to the wind” and buy her the drink anyway?
That begs the question: how does one protect themselves in this instance without looking stingy, rude, or simply odd? And how does one refuse the request without running her off?
The secret listed here is to turn the tables, and not allow it to be about buying a drink to choose her up, but about her asking for a drink because she wants to choose YOU up!
This can be a subtle difference. In one scenario, you’re putting yourself at a disadvantage. In the other, you’re rendering it so she must prove for your requirements she’s worth your own time and money.
So let’s say the girl asks you “Can you buy me a drink?” Try smiling, tilting your mind and saying, “I dunno. Last time Used to do that the woman tried to make the most of me later.”
This really is important because you’re not saying “Yes” or “No.” You’re steering the interaction in an alternative direction, one where you stand in control.
The girl will either laugh, look at you funny, or ask you to tell the story. If she asks for a tale, give her an excellent one. Or even, say. “Think it’ll work again this time?”
It’s funny how often this creates a good situation for you. Many, many women say yes, and will often pull a seat to consult with you about it. If she says no, then tell her you appreciate her honesty, change and leave. Oddly enough, women like that tend to seek you out later in the evening.